“Tell who you want to tell when your discomfort around them not knowing your sexuality begins to cause you more discomfort than the thought of them knowing,” she suggests. So if you never want to tell anyone, that’s your prerogative!
“Your sexuality is yours to share when you want to, if you want to, with whom you want to,” she says. Wright adds that this can make people feel like they have to share if they aren’t heterosexual. We live in a society where everyone is assumed to be heterosexual unless otherwise stated, says Rachel Wright, MA, LMFT, a psychotherapist, licensed marriage and family therapist, and sex and relationship expert. Using birth control can help reduce that risks. So if a person with testes (which produce sperm) and a pre-menopausal person with a uterus (which is where the eggs are stored) have vaginal intercourse, pregnancy is a risk.
How to reduce risk of unwanted pregnancyįor pregnancy to happen, a sperm has to meet an egg. No matter your sexuality, you can reduce your risk for STIs by knowing your current STI status, knowing your partner’s current status, and using barriers (and using them correctly!). How to reduce STI transmissionĪnyone of any gender, anatomy, or sexual orientation can contract an STI if they have oral, vaginal, or anal sex, or otherwise swap body fluids with someone with an infection. It’s the sex you have, who you have sex with, and the precautions you take (or don’t take) during the sex you have to reduce those risks that have bearings on your risk for STI transmission or unwanted pregnancy. Your sexual orientation alone doesn’t have any bearings on your risk for sexually transmitted infections (STIs) or unwanted pregnancy. What does this mean for my sexual and reproductive health? “Anyone who’s still peddling the idea that bisexuality reinforces the gender binary is uninformed, ignorant, and hasn’t been listening to the bisexual community,” he says. While it’s certainly possible for those to be the two (or two of the) genders someone is attracted to, “bisexuality doesn’t state which genders you’re attracted to,” says bisexual activist Vaneet Mehta, creator of the hashtag #BisexualMenExist that went viral in spring of 2020. You’ll notice that this definition does *not* state that bisexuality is an attraction to men and women. People who identify as bisexual need not have had equal sexual or romantic experience - or equal levels of attraction - with people across genders, nor any experience at all attraction and self-identification determines orientation.” “The ‘bi’ in bisexual can refer to attraction to genders similar to and different from one’s own. “Someone who is bisexual acknowledges in themselves the potential to be attracted - romantically, emotionally and/or sexually - to people of more than one gender, not necessarily at the same time, in the same way, or to the same degree. The mostly widely accepted definition of bisexuality is from Ochs herself. If you haven’t already been questioning your sexuality in your waking life, Loewenberg suggests figuring out what you can do to fill that energetic need. Meaning more assertiveness, authority, or aggression. “And the presence of a male in a sex dream suggests you’re craving more masculine energy,” she says. Meaning more nurturing, sensitivity, or creativity. While anyone of any gender can have feminine or masculine energy, “in dream psychology, the presence of a female in a sex dream suggests that you’re craving more feminine energy,” says Loewenberg. Otherwise, the sex dream doesn’t actually represent a physical or sexual want, but a psychological need. “The only time a sex dream may give you some inclination about your sexual orientation is if before you had the dream you were already questioning your sexuality,” she says. According to certified dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg, though, a sex dream alone isn’t reason enough to get your panties in a bunch about your sexuality. It all started with a sex dream - does this mean what I think it means?Ī dirty dream featuring a hottie of a gender you don’t typically get down with can be hot (hello, sleep orgasm!).īut it can also be discombobulating.